Got Wedding Planning Stress?
Beloved Couples Planning Your Wedding. I keep hearing how overwhelmed you are!!! How distressing and just not fun the wedding planning is.
From spreadsheets to budget distress, from social pressures to your own impossible expectations, the walk to your wedding, even sometimes your elopement in nature, is becoming a drag.
Many of you are already managing full and busy lives with work demands, homes and sometimes fur kids and extended family responsibilities. Having another major assignment with so many details, decisions and tasks to handle can be intense!!!! And your anticipation of the actual day sounds filled with “what ifs and worries” also.
THIS IS A LOVE NOTE TO YOU. Please read on for some suggestions for how to take your power back, how to reclaim your determination to have your wedding day be filled with ease, joy and fun!!! Planning your wedding can be an amazing team effort and time where you deepen your self care and your support of each other. The patterns and practices you call on RIGHT NOW as you manage this project can be a template for all the big and small tasks that life is going to bring your way in marriage.
Here are my best offerings for how to turn the wedding planning ship around and especially for how to be very clear about what you want to experience now and on your special day.
FIRST AND FOREMOST! Resolve to create a quiet time to be together. At least an hour or two if you can. If it helps to go outside and get some fresh air or take a walk, begin that way. Then sit or even lie down together. Do some relaxing breathing, give each other a shoulder massage or what ever helps you slow down, soften and feel connected with your selves and each other.
Have a pen and paper ( writing works better than typing on a devise) and speak these questions out loud. Each of you write down your answers.
1.What would make this wedding planning project more easeful? Are there anythings that can be delegated or re prioritized? How can I shift my way of approaching this project? What beliefs/expectations are driving me through this process? What is a more empowered, at easeful perspective I could claim?
2. What are my hopes and dreams for our wedding?
3. What do I want to feel on my wedding day?
4. What do I want us to experience together?
5. How can we support each other? Are there some cues or signals we can use to help each other?
6. What might we want or need during the day? ( breaks, food, getting to the bathroom!!! yes you get to pee on your wedding day!!!!!)
7. Who or what might be giving me some anxiety? A social dynamic that may need some facilitation? My own inner voices/insecurities/concerns? How could these be handled so they don’t upset me/ruin my joy. What practices can I call on to help me stay centered, self loving, empowered during my day.
8. Who can we call on to be our “wing person” to help us with practical things and staying centered and focused on enjoying our day?
9. How do I want to feel during our ceremony? What might I want/need before and during that part of our day? What do I want our officiant to know so they can also support us?
10. What do we need now and on our wedding day that will give us a sense of fulfillment, satisfaction when it is all over (instead of exhausted relief) and a precious memory to carry in our hearts for years to come.
Then take some time sharing your answers with each other. And then write your intentions, agreements and commitments for:
OUR DAY, OUR WAY - The walk to our wedding is wonderful AND we are having a fantastic day that celebrates our LOVE and our first steps into marriage.
Whether I am your officiant or not, if you would like some support, consider a Wedding Well Being Session or two now or even right before your special day. I will help you uncover what the stressors are and how you can shift internally and even find creative new ways to handle the tasks. If you would like some support just before or on your special day, we can plan an hour together. We will get into the zone with some stretching and breathing and some attitude shifting practices. You will waltz your way through your wedding with bells on your feet and joy in your hearts. Reach out and request a free consultation and we will make it happen.
Blessings of love to you all.
Love Grace